"The purpose of marriage is to be married. It's not to find your own happiness." My neighbor quoted to me this morning. He's not sure of the source, but the intention is to understand there is duty involved in a relationship. It's not centered around your happiness. If you think that way, you're bound to be disappointed.
He's happily married by the way, and so am I.
"Formerly, people married for survival, to have a bunch of kids to take care of the farm. It's not like that anymore." my neighbor continued. He and his wife are marriage counselors. "It solves a problem. It can keep you peaceful, content, but if you're expecting your own personal happiness from this, you're going to run into trouble."
"So, happiness is a byproduct?" I suggest.